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Try to understand life as if you are god itself

if  you try to understand life as if you are GOD you will have to be at  top management level .You will realize GOD’s creativity.GOD is power house where product and waste material.both are produced. Product is positive energy and waste products represents negative energy.you will realize nothing happening to you is unfair. And you will be able to accept it.it is just fate.life is like a game.we must live with right spirit.Winning game of life is being satisfied and happy..all tricks and cheating your heart for convincing it is also allowed.even if something is worse u may interpret it as somethingless than worse.because life is unpredictable.who knows what are lifes plans for you..but you should know what you are doing

Our life is how we perceive it.our feelings are in our control.we should observe our feelings.we will realize that feelings are processes.they occur within us.like when we fall down pain is generated and pain makes us upset.

In olden days women used to perform sati at their own will.it was painful but it gave them pride to die for their families.same is for warriors.pain can also be helpful if accepted in correct way.

If a student fails in his exam.he will feel the pain of failure.but the pain would lead him to the right path.so pain cannot be bad.it is part and parcel of our life.pain helps you to understand depth of life.this way everything can satify us .we just have to explain to ourselves.

Your satisfaction should depend on you.

Your satisfaction is your right.but we should take care that our right should not violate others right.keeping our ownself satisfied is our responsibility.

A person may be satisfied with a maruti800. One person may need a Ferrari to get satisfied.our satisfaction depends on our standards of life.

Godmade things satisfy  us better

GOD is basic origin of anything and everything that exists in the universe.then comes GOD-made entities.That is nature and animals.Then    human beings made other objects to satisfy their needs .As satisfaction is  natural feeling,so another natural feeling   will support it better than human made objects.therefore kindness gives us more satisfaction than buying a car.If a car was essential to lead a  good life God would have made cars or other materialistic things.human Beings keep experimenting for finding true happinezz .

If we are satisfied with natural entities all aspects will support us .the nature our own heart.for example let us take consider two type of people name of first person is spiritual  , who is satisfied with happiness of family and second person named material who loves cars .material will never be satisfied .he will keep buying cars .new cars will always keep coming .When we get materialistic thing.happiness is shortlived

Spiritual may face problems but his satisfaction will be long lived.as he finds satisfaction in good deeds even GOD and fate will support him.whereas material will be supported by the company of the car.decision is upto us whose support we want.

Therefore when a person wishes to have a car and thinks this will satisfy him.it is just an illusion.he has wrong perception that car will satisfy him.the car will not satisfy him and in turn he will crave for another better car as soon as he gets the one car.And he will loose track and in the chain of his wants lost.And we never know when the person will actually realize what his   heart actually desires.

KEEP YOUR OWN SELF SATISFIED

Satisfaction is the mental food that we need to stay happy.Satisfaction comes on fulfilment of our desires.We cannot control fulfilment of our desires.But we can control our desires.Our life is in our hands.We should handle it carefully and in an intelligent way.

Be unbiased towards your own self

You should know who u r?

Many times we see people around us who donot understand most simple things in life.We should look at ourself  abstractly as if we are somebody else.This will help us to understand others view about us.We should try to identify that  ” we all are the same and anybody could have been in any other persons place  “.For going ahead we must know the current status.It is very important come to a conclusion as to what we are.If we know ourselves we can analyze our past understand and we can improve our future .And we will be able to accept whatever happens to us.if we know ourself we will be able to deal with our own self in a better way.

Love yourself the way you want to be loved by others.

Try to realize your true self and what you deserve.if we know what you want making decisions becomes easier in life.if we start understanding what is life then life becomes static.static in this context means that unwanted things wont affect us.When we know what we are we can explain to others what we desire and be happy

Accept whatever life gives you

There is one more part to this a person who chooses happiness is never happy.he will always keep choosing his focus is on choosing that wont make him happy.let life choose things for you.accept them in the most beautiful way.this will make you the most comfortable person.

The straight path is good for those who want a quick fix, but that doesn’t make you into a better person. The long windy road that goes up, down and all around, provides you with deep insight into yourself as a person and also about life. At the end of the day, people who have been through a lot and come out the other end successful, are more knowledgeable, more character filled, and have much more to offer than people who were spoon fed their notions and given their path to walk. Do yourself a favour, if you want to be awesome in this life – take the hard road.

It’s easy to sit back and wish for things to be in your lap. But real people, and I mean REAL PEOPLE, will do everything it takes to get what they are looking for. They will sacrifice, learn, change and apply – and they will get what they want. If it takes them 5 years, great. If it takes 10, great. Overall, the more time and energy you give to it, and the more you learn to love the bumps in the road, the better you can develop and more appealing you will be to people who are trying to do similar things to you. In short, you are a greater influence in life, when you have gone the long hard road, as opposed to the short easy on.

Do yourself a favour, stop taking the easy way out all the time. And if you are reading this and you don’t take the easy road out, give yourself a pat on the back. The people I have met in life, that I respect and love, are the ones that have been to hell and back, and come out the other end a better person for it. They have so much to offer. So if you are going the hard road at the moment, I want you to think of who you have to be to get out the other end in a better state than what you are now. If you can visualise your success point and work toward it, you will have it.

The difference between a winner and a loser is who quits first! Remember that.

Life Coaching – The Hard Road

People who take the hard road understand these 12 points:

1. You learn more about yourself and your process as a whole.
2. You become a better person for doing it.
3. You learn how to service many situations, not just a couple.
4. You learn how to troubleshoot many times over.
5. You become more efficient in understanding things.
6. You learn to give your best for the long haul, not short term.
7. You understand the importance of sacrifice to acquire things.
8. You believe that the hard road can give more than a short easy path.
9. You understand that things that worthwhile things take a lot of time to put together, are more often than not are the ones that teach you the most about life and yourself.
10. You understand that things that come easy, sometimes go just as easy.
11. You understand that the long hard road has many successes and failures, which gives you infinite character and wisdom.
12. You plain and simple – become a better person for slogging it out and making a real go of it.

It’s easy to quit on things when they get hard. It’s just as easy to persist, after you have practiced it for a while. When you are working toward something, when it gets hard, get tough and make it work for you. If you fail, great, learn as much as you can from that failure. If you lose the plot, great, learn about the emotions and thoughts relating to it. If you succeed, after going through lots of ups and downs with your process, you will feel so much stronger than if you were to just have the straight path.

Mindfulness has this quality of intimacy and connection with all aspects of our life’s unfolding drama. In fact, one of the most direct effects that come with the cultivation of mindful-awareness is the phenomenon of sensory enrichment; as we look more closely at things with an openness of mind, we naturally see and experience more – more sensory detail. Literally, our experience is transformed from black-and-white into vibrant color. Our experience becomes more dynamic and alive; we feel more alive. Contrast this with the sensory depravation that results from the habitual reactivity of the state of unawareness and un-mindfulness. Such un-mindfulness, being out-of-touch with experience and lacking intimate contact with our experience is in Buddhist psychology regarded as the realm of death, personified by Mara – the one who keeps us in a state of ignorance and dissociation from reality.

The second part of this particular dimension of mindfulness is openness of heart. This is described by terms such as friendliness, warmth and compassion. This is where we warmly greet each and every aspect of our experience with a smile; we learn to smile at whatever arises, pleasant or unpleasant, beautiful or ugly, big or small, significant or insignificant. Nothing is excluded; nothing is abandoned. We choose to turn towards our experiences: painful as well as joyful, and greet each as having the right to exist, greeting each as something to be valued and cared for with kindness and compassion.

Mindfulness begins with opening the mind and opening the heart and choosing to be completely present with whatever arises in our experience, quite different that the blind reactivity of the unaware mind. This quality of engaged-presence is perhaps one of the most important dimensions of mindfulness. It is not just about opening to experience, not just about seeing what is happening as it is happening, but of choosing to be fully there with our experience, or with the experience of another person, or indeed with the world in general. This can be described as the difference between being and becoming. When we are mindful, we enter into a relationship with the object of mindfulness characterized by being, a state of inner stillness and non-reactivity where there lots of space to receive and to respond. The state of becoming is a characteristic of the reactive mind, the contracted mind that is never able to be fully present with whatever is happening now such a mind is forever moving away from the now towards something other.

There are many other dimensions of mindfulness, which may become the subject of future articles, but suffice it to say that learning this simple response to our emotional suffering characterized by openness of mind and openness of heart is the beginning of the healing process. It produces an inner spacious dimension in which change can happen. As I frequently say to my clients and students:

‘Reactivity inhibits change; mindfulness promotes change. The Path of Mindfulness is the empowering choice of creating the fertile space in which beneficial change can take place’

Peter Strong, PhD is a scientist, author and Buddhist Psychotherapist, based in Boulder, Colorado, who specializes in the study of mindfulness and its application in Mindfulness Psychotherapy for healing the root causes of anxiety, depression and traumatic stress.

Besides face-to-face therapy sessions, Dr Strong offers Online Mindfulness Meditation Therapy through Skype and email correspondence. Teaching seminars are available for groups and companies.

Mindfulness is that quality of conscious awareness of whatever arises in our present experience in which there is an attitude of engaged-presence.

Mindfulness is both very simple and very profound, and to really benefit from its remarkable powers you have to approach the subject with a complete openness of mind and heart – but, of course, that is what mindfulness, or sati in the Pali Sanskrit dialect in which the Buddha’s teachings were first recorded over 2000 years ago, is all about. Indeed, this gives us an insight into one of the many dimensions of mindfulness: the quality of openness that goes beyond our usual attitude of tolerance to a level of intense interest and delight in whatever arises in our field of experience. That is openness of mind: the motivation to investigate and to penetrate below the superficial appearance of things to reveal the rich inner dimension of experience in all its sensory and experiential detail. Everyone has experience of the profound pleasure that comes from delving into a hobby or project and becoming intimately connected with the subtlety and detailed workings of that project. Contrast this to the indifference, apathy and negativity of those individuals who have no interest or are prevented from developing intimacy with their world. It is a simple truth that lack of intimacy is unsatisfying and painful, whereas complete intimacy and connection with life experiences is profoundly nourishing and brings great happiness.

There are some stages you might go through in your process through grief. The first one is shock and getting through the notion of it. Your body is going to feel shocked and your mind as well. During this stage you might cry off and on and have up and down feelings. Your emotions might feel like they are on a roller coaster, as one minute you are laughing at a good memory, while the next minute you are crying.

Your body while going through shock might not be able to properly function as well. You might feel tired all the time and feel the need to sleep. You might not have an appetite and therefore will not want to eat or drink. It is important during this stage, to ensure that you force yourself to eat and drink, because if you let your body get run down then it will ultimately affect how you can heal inside.

The next stage in the grieving process might be a feeling of anger. You might feel angry that your loved one died. Maybe he was too young, or died in a way that could have been prevented. Perhaps it was an illness or an older relative that you did not expect to pass. Feeling angry is normal and can make you feel like you need someone to blame. During this time it is best to keep communicating about your feelings to other loved ones or a professional who will listen to your thoughts. If you keep feelings bottled up inside it could be destructive to your healing process.

The next stage of grief can only be healed through the passing of time. And the stage is considered a time where you finally realize that your loved one is gone. You have gone through the initial shock and felt the anger and pain of it and the next step is actually feeling his absence in your life. This is the stage where you will miss hearing his voice, or seeing or touching him. With the passing of time, you realize that he is not coming back and that you won`t see him again. These feelings can often feel a bit claustrophobic. Because there are things that you cannot change no matter what.

The best thing to do is try to remember his life. This can be done by looking through photos, watching videos and remembering special times that you had.

Grieving is not a nice feeling. It can make you feel like your insides are being torn around. It may seem impossible to move on with your life. But there is hope. There are ways to get through the grieving process so that you can become a stronger person and stay connected to the people you love.

Losing someone you love might have happened in one of two ways. Either his passing was expected or not. Both ways do not matter in the way you will grieve but will affect the way that you initially felt when you found out that the person was gone.

If you had no idea that your loved one was going to pass, then your initial reaction might be shock. The kind of shock that leaves you wondering if you`re dreaming and if what is happening is real. Often people in this stage cannot process the information properly and cannot function in general.

When a loved one passed away and you knew that it was going to happen, you will still be shocked but will believe it in a way. Knowing that someone is dying can give you the room your mind needs to process the event and prepare for it a bit.

Another situation when someone should strive for perfection is if there are other people’s lives at stake. A definite example that comes to mind would be surgeons that perform major operations. One mistake could not only cost the surgeon his career, but also the life of his patient.

What it all boils down to is making efficient use of your time. Let’s say you are writing an article or creating a website. Is it better to spend tons of time trying to make it perfect, or does it make more sense to make it excellent and then move onto other projects? Let me be clear, I’m not saying you should churn out lots of low quality work. The fact is you can only edit and polish your creation so much until you hit the point of diminishing returns.

The biggest downfall perfectionists experience is all of the good things they miss out on by neglecting the other parts of life. This is seen many times in men who spend all of their time and effort on their careers; they find it very difficult to meet and date women because they neglected their social skills. Life is so much more enjoyable and fulfilling as a well-rounded individual that is excellent in multiple areas of life.

To attain excellence in multiple areas of your life, it is necessary to find the methods and strategies that produce the best results for you. What has worked best for me is focusing intensely on one area of my life until I achieve the degree of excellence I desire, and then move on to my next goal. This approach works best for me because I thrive when focusing on one thing, whereas someone that is better at multitasking might find a different approach to be best.

Life is way too short to waste it by striving to be perfect in just one small facet of your existence. Choose to live a full and rich life. Choose excellence.

That’s very interesting.

On October 15, 2008, a mere three weeks before Comrade Barack Hussein would be elected President, Michelle the Public Servant rang up a bill for $447.39 at the Waldorf Astoria Hotel in New York City for a little afternoon snack. Now we don’t know who the other person was…except that it wasn’t Oprah…because there were no mashed spuds with horseradish sour cream, which Oprah eats in the afternoon to keep her energy level high.

What…you may ask was on the bill of fare?

2 Lobster Hors D’Oeuvres at $50

2 Whole Steamed Lobsters at $100

1 Iranian Osetra Caviar at $150

1 Bollinger Champagne at $44

(My god…Bollinger? P Diddly is pissing himself.)

With gratuity…and tax…a mere $447.39 for a snack, paid for by a humble public servant.

(Who…excuse me…made $350,000+ as a humble hospital administrator.

(You ever wonder why health care costs are so high?)

And I don’t think she had to get reimbursed by Medicare at .30 cents on the dollar, like the doctors.

Our Belle Michelle didn’t stop there. Since Comrade Barack was sworn in, she has assembled a staff of 22, not counting makeup artist and hairstylist. Mamie Eisenhower, Jackie Kennedy, Rosalyn, Barb, Hillary, and Laura Bush combined for a staff of…8.

The evil Mrs.Bush had one paid staffer.

Miz Michelle has 22+, costing taxpayers ONE MILLION FIVE HUNDRED NINETY ONE THOUSAND TWO HUNDRED DOLLARS in annual salary. That doesn’t count what it costs to transport this menagerie around the world, housing and feeding them at 5***** Star Resorts, such as in Copenhagen, where again, the travel records are sealed.

(The only thing transparent here is the glue.)

But take heart all you Yogi’s and Booboo’s, CHANGE is coming. And unlike Comrade Baracks change,you will know what this is all about. At 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, there is a fog around the White House.

They have forgotten the old adage, “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.”

You know, I think I’ll have a snack. I’m going to my cabinet, removing a bottle of Lagavulan, and pouring four stiff fingers in a double rocks glass.

Whooooooey Dawg!

That didn’t cost the taxpayers a thing!

The theme for 2010 is: SEND THEM HOME! Everytime you see and hear another outrage, just say it quietly under your breath. Send them home. Send them home. Send them home.